It’s amazing how much power you have over a man just by giving him food.

A new survey found the best time to get your husband to have a serious talk is: 8:15 p.m., right when he’s started eating dinner. About half of men say that’s when they’re most ready and willing to listen.

The next best time is during a long drive. The third best time is in front of your parents, because it’s harder for him to say “no” in front of his in-laws. Although that’s a pretty underhanded move. Are you really going to get honest answers that way?

The worst times to try to have a serious talk are: When he’s playing video games; when he’s watching sports; and when he’s watching TV or a movie.

Finally, the worst way to get him into the conversation is by saying, “We need to talk.” Eighty percent of men say that phrase scares them so much, they’ll do anything to avoid hearing what comes next.