Here are five tips for texting someone in the early stages of a relationship:

1. Don’t wait three days. The old rule of waiting three days to reach out is over. People are all about immediate gratification nowadays — and if you wait, they might lose interest.

2. Don’t just text “Hey,” “Hi,” or “Hello.” It’s lazy and easy to ignore. A good first text will include a question, explain who you are, or reference a previous interaction in some way.

3. Do focus your early texts on making plans. After you’ve made contact, focus your early text conversations on making plans, so you don’t get stuck in an endless conversation loop.

4. Do think about your grammar and spelling. Some people don’t care about grammar and spelling over texts. But you’re better off playing it safe with someone you want to date, because maybe they DO care.

5. Do know when to stop texting. One text that’s not returned could be forgetfulness or tech problems. Two or three texts not returned is a message. Move on.